My husband’s parents hate me

I am 29 years old, my husband is the same age, married for a year. We met in the last year of university, then a year later he returned to his hometown to work. The two have been together for five years. During his acquaintance, he went out until 9 pm when his parents called to urge him back. After six years of love, we decided to get married. I gave up all my work, friends, and joy in Saigon and returned to my hometown to marry him, asking the company to let me work remotely.

When I fell in love, I also went to his house to play, knowing that his parents were meticulous. When cleaning the house, grandparents will look at the floor to see if there are any dust stains, wipe it once or twice a day, the doormat must not be folded, the slippers must also be cleaned. I wasn’t careful, so I told him to get married and come out separately for both parties to be comfortable. He agreed, but told him to stay with his parents for a few months before going out on his own. When I lived together, I found my parents happy, without any problems. I help my mother cook and wash dishes. My mother often gets up early at 5am to clean the house, so I can’t help this. After a few months, we moved into a rented house, and went back to his house for two days every weekend. Everything is still smooth, my husband’s parents are not strict, I am also happy and polite. My parents buy things for me, I buy flowers, gifts and clothes for my husband’s parents.

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When the innkeeper got his house back, we decided not to rent the house anymore, but bought a separate house to settle down and start a business. The new house is about five kilometers from my husband’s parents’ house, nearly 30 kilometers from my parents’ house. We saved a little money, borrowed two more parents. From the day we got a new house, my husband’s parents were not happy with me. On the first day of moving in, my parents-in-law came up and forced us to arrange things according to their wishes. The wedding bed is for another room, not for my wife’s bedroom because it’s not in the right direction, so we had to sleep on a folding bed. The fact that I put the trash can, hang the mirror, and put the cabinet where, my parents also said that they don’t know how to arrange. I bought a bookshelf, a shelf to store things, my parents said it was wasteful, later if I was poor, would I make money from selling bookshelves. Grandparents get annoyed when I buy new things even with my own money. Father-in-law put the shelf where he wanted.

On the morning of Wednesday, I went to fix my car, my husband washed a bowl for him to eat breakfast, when his parents saw it, he yelled at him: “Your wife doesn’t wash but you have to wash it? It climbs on your head to sit”. My friends went down to play, and grandparents yelled at my friends because the first four days did not allow strangers to enter the house. Since then, how much anger the mother-in-law has said, thinks that I want to live alone, so that your son has to go out to stay, and now have to buy a house that costs money, and is far away. My husband’s parents also told me that I don’t know how to organize, clean the house, buy wasteful things, work at a coffee shop (I work as a freelancer, so I sometimes go to the cafe to work).

When my husband’s parents returned, I held my mother’s hand in a comforting way, and she pushed my hand away. My parents went up to have dinner with me, my husband’s parents always left. The next day my husband called, my father-in-law answered the phone, my mother-in-law did not listen and did not want to see my husband and I. According to my mother, my husband is at a disadvantage because he listens to his wife. He was also sad because he stood in the middle and loved me, but said: “Because I pamper you, I’ll go out alone, my mother is angry with me”. I bought tonics, told him to come over and make peace with my parents because now my husband’s parents don’t want to see me.

I don’t understand what I’m doing want to be alone what’s wrong. Husband wants to have a house and then have children right away, after giving birth, he has to go home. I think it’s okay to have my own house and stay here, if I have to go back to my grandparents’ house, I feel more comfortable at my grandmother’s house. I don’t want to give birth at this time, I’m mildly depressed, afraid of getting worse, what to do?

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