Childbirth is probably a time when women are painful, weak and need the support from their loved ones. That is the reason why more and more hospitals allow the mother’s family to join the delivery room and the choice is often the “knee-to-knee” husband who is with the pregnant mother every day. However, letting her husband witness the birth can also lead to negative “consequences” as in the family story below.
Feifei (living in China) is a model couple with good looks, stable work and close relationship. When Feifei was pregnant, her husband loved and cared for her in every way he could. Every day, he took her to work, always loved to buy her everything she liked, and actively did all the housework so that his pregnant wife could rest. Feifei’s husband’s care and attention made her friends and colleagues jealous.
The husband went to the delivery room to encourage his wife during the birth.
As the due date approached, Feifei became more and more worried and pressured about giving birth. Before that, she also watched videos of “giving birth” with her husband who were very emotional and emotional, so she also wanted to have her husband by her side to encourage and comfort in important moments in her life. Fortunately, when she suggested it, her husband happily agreed.
In the blink of an eye, the day of giving birth has arrived. Feifei finally gave birth after hours of labor. She is also very happy that her husband has accompanied her in difficult moments. However, after the birth, Feifei’s husband’s attitude gradually changed. So far, his daughter has been 5 months old, but he still insists on sleeping separately, only when she needs to call for help at night, he will come over. At first, the young mother thought that her husband was tired from work and helped her take care of her children, so she wanted to sleep alone. However, when she felt that she wanted to “get close” again with her husband and asked him to go to the shared bedroom, he still refused.
After Feifei gave birth, her husband insisted on sleeping separately.
At this time, Feifei found it strange and confided to her colleagues about her husband’s change in attitude before and after giving birth. The sister of a colleague said that it is possible that witnessing Feifei’s birth left a psychological obsession with her husband, so he is now afraid of “having sex” with his wife.
When Feifei heard that, he woke up and went to talk to her husband directly. After many times of asking, he also nodded to admit after seeing her bloody birth, “private area” expanding. He is obsessed and does not dare to touch his wife anymore, but he still loves his wife and children very much. After that, the couple had to go to psychological counseling to gradually remove the barrier in their husband Feifei’s heart and their lives were in harmony again.
In fact, not every husband is suitable to enter the delivery room with his wife. There have been cases Husband and wife went to give birth, but before the child was born, the father fainted because of stress and fear. Therefore, in order to have a smooth “double birth”, the husband needs to pay attention to the following 3 issues:
– Learn antenatal, familiarize yourself with the birthing process: Fear is a common human psychology when coming to an unfamiliar environment, especially when there is still a lot of blood, antiseptic, and medical equipment such as the delivery room. Therefore, the husband should familiarize himself with this environment in advance, attend antenatal sessions to understand the childbirth process.
Mental preparation: When entering the delivery room with his wife, the husband will become the spiritual pillar for the pregnant woman in pain. Therefore, the husband needs to prepare mentally and calmly. When the husband has a temper, excessive anxiety can affect the doctor’s work efficiency as well as the mother’s psyche.
– Consoling his wife with words and actions: When in pain, the wife needs to be comforted and encouraged in both words and actions. In the meantime, if the husband just silently observes, it won’t help, please gently hold hands, confide, and stabilize his wife’s psychology. Actions such as stroking hair, wiping sweat will also help mothers who are giving birth to have more motivation.
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