My wife doesn’t accept that I used to live with my ex

The first day we met, she told me all about the past, asking if we could go further. I agree because I feel you are very gentle and honest. I don’t tell my whole story because I think everyone has a secret. A year later, I returned home to get married and then welcomed her over. She had a decent education, my conditions were not good, along with a hard life in a foreign country, she came here to do manual labor like many other immigrants, then bought a house with me.

One day by chance, she discovered that when I was young, I lived with a girl for nearly 10 years through some pictures on my computer. Due to the family’s prohibition, at that time me and the other had to let go. I have a bit of regret but no longer have many feelings for that girl. But my wife cried a lot. Even I don’t understand why after just one night you feel like a terrible shock. She asked why me and my family painted me as an educated, successful person, but were not honest from day one.

>> It’s hard to accept a girlfriend who used to live together

You accept that I love one person for 10 years, even love many people, but do not accept that I live with other people like that. She feels that marriage is no longer sacred because everything I do for her has been done for another woman. I also think that society has this and that, some people accept it, some are not, I’m not ready for that because I think I’m like a second wife. Having cohabitation or divorce is something I don’t want before getting married, it’s taboo for me. I am afraid that the image of the previous person in marriage is too big, my parents are also divorced.

A year later, I became different. Before she was happy, now there is only silence, anger and anger. I noticed the pain in my wife’s eyes every time she looked at me. She wanted me to say sorry, but in the heat of the moment because of her past being discovered, I hit her. I said if I can’t stay, I’ll divorce because I can afford to love another person.

>> Girlfriend wants to have children, cohabiting before marriage

You are too childish, conservative and selfish. You can only speak for fun, take revenge with my words without thinking about the consequences, while I have worked so hard to worry about you. Five years together, no children, now I just want to leave my hometown. She said she was hurt by me, while living together is normal in the west and I am very responsible for her. Do you think leaving me now will bring a reputation for a husband’s life, worse than “living together”?

If you read this post, think twice. I am a conscientious, responsible and loving husband. Life should move forward, we need to live in the present, realistically, don’t dream of fairy tales in real life.

Army

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